Not seeing the woods for the trees

Today’s cliche of the day is ‘you can’t see the wood for the trees’. Which is one I agree with and see the wisdom in.

It’s good occasionally to take a step back and take stock of your life. Especially if there’s a lot going on. I’ve had a lot going on. The divorce, which I thought was going well, suddenly isn’t, and it seems that communication has broken down. I think the next few months will be very messy as we fight over the house, money and so on.

It kind of took me by surprise as I thought we’d agree to try & make it amicable, but I guess that money brings out the worst in some people. Am happy to say it’s quite nice up here on my moral high-ground when it comes to that. I decided long ago, that self-respect was paramount, it’s nice to be able to maintain that & it’s kind of showing him to be more of an arsehole than I’d realised.

All of the coming and going has got me down though, I’ve been feeling blue and under a lot of pressure. It made my perspective quite skewed and I’d lost my appetite for life, a little. But, it’s the little things in life which make you happy. Dealing with The Ex for the first time in so long, really dragged me down. I think it brought back some of the misery that I felt when I was still with him & trying to make it work. This morning I woke, feeling pure relief that I’ll have a clean break soon. Life’s not too bad, I was feeling sorry for myself when I woke up, I pulled the muscles in my backside & it hurts when I walk, sit or move – getting out of bed made me miserable. It was in the shower that I figured out that I must have pulled it during all the sex I had with The Boy yesterday. Then I smiled. Felt satisfied. Saw the woods again, in spite of the trees.

On the grass being greener on the other side.

Today’s cliche is “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”.

I don’t like this one, although there may be some sense in it. I think it’s a way for people to subtly quieten your dreams and stop you complaining when things are not right.

“Oh, things always seem better, but they aren’t, really, it’s just you” is what this particular cliche reads between the lines.

BUT, the grass often IS greener on the other side. And isn’t it up to us to decide what we want and what is right for us?

Life is like a box of cliches…

I have a bit of a thing for cliches. Find them fascinating as a thing.

“Life is like a box of cliches” I often say when I’m drunk. “And you never know which one you’re going to get next” reply my friends, as they roll their eyes at me in one of our weekly drunken ritual conversations.

My cliche of the day is Never Judge A Book By It’s Cover.

I think as a species we’re hardwired to make assumptions and judgements about each other, but I also think we’re hardwired to forget that most of our judgements are just assumptions. We need these assumptions to get by in life, but in forgetting that we don’t know what we think we do, I think it’s easy to miss out on so much – especially in our interactions with each other.